forgive and forget

I have a lot of good and even wonderful things going on in my life, but the stuff that sucks really sucks at the moment. I have figured something out that has brought me a lot of peace. I have parents who are aging and aged. They are officially elderly. In their elder years they are sweet and funny and unfortunately in terrible health. In their younger years they weren't always so sweet and, in fact left their kids with some unfortunate memories, like most families experience. I'm not a greatly religious person, but I follow most things that nice people find to be good, like honoring my parents. I haven't always been happy with them. They each have made me crazy angry on occasion (and vice-versa, naturally). But, now, when they are really vulnerable and certainly not going to be with us much longer, I've decided to start over and accept them as they are today, forgiving all the stuff that happened before. You may disagree, my siblings sure do, but it is working for me.